Saturday, March 28, 2009

A Red Balloon for Jordan...

We released red balloons tonight at 7:30pm CST (5:30pm PST) in memory of Jordan Rowe...




Reposted from The Rowes in the Rose City...

One of the joys of Jordan's life were red balloons. She'd hold them in her hand & bounce them up and down, training her eyes to follow the dance of the red balloon.
Tomorrow evening at 5:30pm, at the end of our after-service gathering, we would like to invite you to join us in releasing a red balloon for Jordan (from your home if you won't be joining us at the gathering). Please feel free to attach a little note to Jordan to the balloon before you release it. We'd also love it if you could take a photograph of your balloon release and forward it on to us, if you are able to do that.

Monday, March 23, 2009

I once had the privilege of meeting a beautiful baby girl named Jordan. Through my Infantile Spasms support group, I met a mother who was also traveling to Detroit for the first time for the full work up requested by Dr. Chugani. Jordan was about 9 months and Sophie was about 11 months. We met in the airport and my heart immediately went out to her brave mother, Leslie, who had traveled alone with her daughter halfway across the country to try to find some answers. She was determined to find out as much as she could about her daughter's condition and to give her the best medical care possible.

Little did I know that the amazement I saw in this mother was only a fraction of what Leslie and the rest of her family did for this sweet little girl. Unfortunately, her original blog was deleted or else you would be able to read and see for yourself as I can not give the things they did with this beautiful little girl justice. But one memory stands out...the beautiful pictures they took of their hikes through mountains with Jordan in a backpack carrier. They loved her with all their heart and she was as much as part of their family as any little girl could be.

With a heavy heart, I must say that they had to say goodbye to their sweet little girl this morning. I pray for peace in their hearts as they travel through this sad journey.

Reposted from Leslie's blog...

Jordan didn't wake up this morning. She passed peacefully in her sleep sometime between midnight & 04:30am. She was right there with us, yet made no plea for help, no gasps for breath, no cries of pain. She just slipped away. Quite unexpectedly. She was almost back to "normal" from her illness of the last few weeks, and was going to go to school today for the first time in over a week. Unfortunately for us, though, it was her time to go. We are shocked and devastated. Devastated. We will let you know when arrangements have been made for her memorial service.

Leslie, Devon, Avery, & Birkeley



Thursday, March 19, 2009

5 Star Treatment...

Never would I have ever imagined that things would go as smoothly as they did...even with a little mishap along the way.

First of all, we were able to do the EEG locally. There was no worrying about plane trips or places to stay. The hospital, St. Louis Children's Hospital, is only 20 minutes from our house. I, of course, still overpacked and worried myself crazy the night before.

I was immediately impressed when we walked into our room. It was a private, spacious and well lit room...the nicest hospital room we have ever stayed in by far. We even had a view as we could see the Gateway Arch. Everyone we met was so incredibly nice...the nurses, EEG technician, in-house pediatrician, epileptologist, etc. I was amazed at having so many people check in on us.

But the best part has yet to come...for all of you who have been through a 24 hour video EEG or longer you will appreciate this. In the ceiling, there was a little dome with a camera in it. In another room, there was a technician who monitored the camera and EEG reading at all times. This allowed Sophie to move freely about the ENTIRE ROOM!!! The cord was so long that she was even able to step right outside the room. She was given a backpack to wear to hold the box that all the wires were attached to. At every other hospital, we were confined to the bed or one foot beside the bed in order to stay within camera view. No one ever checked in on us. If a lead came loose on Sophie's head, we had to notice it on the EEG reading and notify someone. There was no backpack so we had to constantly be hunched over Sophie so that every time she moved one of the wires didn't pop out of the box.

The following morning, the epileptologist reviewed the EEG and then spent at least 20 minutes explaining everything to us and answered all of our questions. She seemed to genuinely care and took the time to review Sophie's previous MRI and PETscan. Which amazed me since Sophie is not her patient nor is she a patient of a doctor at this hospital. They took a complete history of Sophie including every treatment she has ever tried. The epileptologist recommended trying felbatol and explained all the risk and side effects to us.

Our one minor mishap... Sophie loves to throw her body around like crazy. She thinks it is funny. She gets in these moods and becomes a complete wet noodle. It is completely on purpose because she only does it when she is in a really silly mood. So as I was waiting at the elevators to head down to the cafeteria the second morning we were there, I heard a loud scream. I just knew it was Sophie. So I headed back to the room (which is around a corner, down a hall and around another corner...that is how loud she was crying). When I walked in the room, Brandon was holding her and she was sobbing. He said that he was holding her hand and she just threw her body backwards and he heard a pop. So I held her, thinking that once she calmed down that she was going to be okay. Well, she refused to move that arm. I knew she had to be in a lot of pain because she has a very high pain threshold. Brandon got the nurse, who got the resident pediatrician, who then got the head pediatrician. She examined Sophie's arm, moved it around a bit while Sophie screamed her head off. She said that Sophie's elbow was popped out of socket and that she just popped it back in. She said that if she still wasn't moving it around within a few minutes that she would need x-rays. Well, within 5 minutes, Sophie was back to normal like nothing had ever happened.

Special thanks to Grandma Debbie for taking such great care of Elsa. She even brought her up to the hospital for a few hours which Sophie absolutely loved. It was calming to know that Elsa was in such great hands.

Special thanks also to Sophie's old ABA therapist, Jen. She came to visit us in the hospital and brought Sophie her favorite chips and a book. Sophie was excited to see her and even showed off some new words for her. Jen always had a way of getting Sophie to do things that no one else could.


Monday, March 16, 2009

Another EEG...

I'm anxious. Tired. Just feeling overall gloomy. In about 7 hours we will be leaving for the hospital for Sophie's 24 hour video EEG. I hate staying the night in the hospital. I hate the thought of being confined to a hospital room. I hate the thought of the tears that will be rolling down Sophie's face as the leads are put on her head.

It is going to be a gorgeous day tomorrow. And we are going to miss it. And it makes me mad. Then I think of Zoey and so many other children that have long extended hospital stays. I think of all the gorgeous days they miss. It is not fair.

But we are suppose to be grateful that there are hospitals for our children to go to...to become well. And I am grateful. Just sometimes, there are so many more mixed emotions that go along with it. But, between all of Sophie's hospital visits and all the testing, nothing has made her better. She continues to have seizures everyday. We are now at 600mg of Banzel (we increased to 500mg last Wednesday and 600mg yesterday). Her seizures are not any better. Maybe even a little worse. They are longer. Lasting up to 10 seconds per seizure. But she does seem to have a bit more clarity when she is having a good moment. It doesn't make any sense.

It is hard for me to let go. To know that I have no control. I just try to do my best in getting Sophie the best medical treatment possible. But ultimately I must leave things up to Him. To enjoy all the great things that Sophie does do and not dwell on the medical issues. But it is hard. It is hard watching your child suffer.

So if anyone is in the area and has any desire to come by and say hi...we will be there...just give us a call on our cellphones. We will be counting down the minutes until we get to enjoy some of the gorgeous weather that has come our way.


Saturday, March 07, 2009

What a week...

Elsa woke up last Saturday morning with a 102.5 degree fever that just would not go away. I took her to the pediatrician on Tuesday and it turns out that she has a urinary tract infection. She is on antibiotics and finally started feeling better on Thursday night. But in the meantime, she was LITERALLY attached to my hip. Her feet did not hit the ground for days. She was not sleeping very well at night so I was up giving in to her every demand. And demanding she was!!! She is now being detoxed from being spoiled so much. It is not going so well.

On top of that, Sophie was not sleeping very well and was having more seizures than usual. We increased Banzel on Monday to 300mg (100mg in AM and 200mg in PM) and on Friday to 400mg (200mg 2x/day). She is doing much better now and her seizures have somewhat stabilized. Though, she was up at 5am in this morning and had a fairly large cluster of seizures. But she has been in a VERY happy mood ever since then. She was extremely loud and vocal today. The weather was absolutely gorgeous yesterday and today and we have been spending a lot of time outside. We have to take advantage of these days as they come and go this time of the year. (Heather...I think California is calling our name louder than ever).

On top of that, I am 5 months pregnant.

So it made for a very exhausting week.

Friday, February 27, 2009

Hmmm...

Let the guessing games begin. Sophie has been off seizure medication for almost 5 months. So we let her seizures be what they were. She had her good days and bad but we never had to worry about whether to increase or decrease or who knows what to her medication. Like I said in a previous post, I took a hiatus from thinking. It has been almost 3 years since her first seizure and sometimes you just need to step back, live life and not be consumed by the "what ifs" and "what's next". But now I am back in the game. Counting seizures and documenting schedules. Which means I have to consciously try to keep a close on eye on her. Which is not that easy when you have a one year old to also look after. So I try my best.

Yesterday, we increased Banzel to 200mg (100mg in AM and 100mg in PM). Still a very low dose. We will stay at this dose for 3 days before we increase again. Which brings me to the guessing game this morning. Not a good morning. She woke up at 5am and had 16 seizures. She went back to sleep and then woke up around 7am and had another 15 seizures. I am sure it doesn't have anything to do with the medication but it makes you wonder. So now I just hope and pray that Banzel is the "IT" drug for Sophie. I will try and let the next few weeks be what they are and try not to wonder too much.

Thursday, February 26, 2009

Banzel - Day 3...

It has been 3 days on Banzel at 100mg per day. We haven't seen any results but we weren't expecting to see any at such a low dose. Tomorrow we increase the dose to 100mg twice a day. The straw method of taking the medication is working...such a relief. It is so easy to get her to take her medicine. I am in LOVE with the straw method. I actually tried to get her to take her omegas that way but they were too big to fit in the straw. I can't believe I just found out about it. It would have made things much easier in the past.

I am so hopeful that Banzel will be the "it" drug for Sophie. I haven't been this hopeful in such a long time. It is scary having my hopes up so high at the moment. But at the same time I find myself having a renewed sense of peace. Peace that no matter what happens, Sophie is going to be okay. That she is happy. That is what matters the most. That her smiles consume her day. My day. Her smiles far outnumber her seizures. She is such a happy child. My favorite part of the day is right before bedtime for the girls. And not because it is "right before bedtime". The girls are in their PJs. Fresh out of the bath. Smelling all sweet. Teeth are brushed. They know it's bedtime but they get all giddy. There is this unspoken vibe between them. And they both start belly laughing. Sophie is doing circles around Elsa. Then she gets right into her face. Eye to eye. And they both just start laughing. Then Sophie runs off. Elsa can't take her eyes off of her. Then they start playing, more laughing and Sophie just being her goofy little self. I will have to get this on videotape and upload to the blog soon. It is just way too adorable.

Monday, February 23, 2009

Banzel (Rufinamide)...

Banzel is a new drug that just received FDA approval in November 2008 for Lennox-Gastaut Syndrome. So no one has much experience with the drug. Since my local neuro has not put anyone on this drug, he wanted me to asked Dr. Chugani about it.

So I e-mailed Dr. Chugani to get his thoughts on Banzel. This is what he had to say...

"That's a new drug that seems promising. It just came out. I have used it with good success in several children."

I spoke with another mom who put her son on it about a month ago and she loves the drug so far. She has seen no side effects from it. She has not seen a seizure in the last 15 days (the day after he started the full dose).

So we started Sophie on Banzel today**. We start off at 100mg per day and will gradually go up to 700mg per day, if need be. Banzel should be taken with food since it absorbs better. I waited until she got home from preschool and gave it to her with lunch so I would be able to monitor her for any allergic reactions. I made a glass of chocolate milk and let her take a drink through the straw. Then I stuck the tablet into the top part of the straw and she drank it right down. I can't believed it work. I have never thought about it before. Another mom mentioned the MediStraw on her blog but I forgot to order one so I tried with a regular straw. The tablet is perfect size to fit right into a straw without sliding to the bottom. It gets a little stuck so while she was taking a drink, I slightly squeezed the top of the straw and she drank the tablet down without noticing. I hope it is always this easy.


**I was going to start Saturday morning but for some odd reason she threw up. It was right before breakfast and afterwards she seemed perfectly fine. So I don't know if she just gagged on something. I was actually in the middle of cooking breakfast. After I cleaned her up, she kept looking at the food and saying "num-nums" so I let her eat. She ate a lot and has been perfectly fine ever since.

Saturday, February 21, 2009

Happy 1st Birthday, Elsa...

We celebrated Elsa's 1st birthday last month. She turned a year old on January 22nd. What an amazing year it has been. She is my little superbaby. Full of energy and absorbing everything around her. She amazes me at the rate of which she learns things. And mostly from Sophie. And not always good.

She is practically running and is climbing all over the place. She climbs up in Sophie's chair and then she climbs up onto the kitchen table. She can climb up this slide (the actual slide...steps she has been doing for months now). There is nothing that will get in the way of that child getting what she wants. She HAS to imitate everything Sophie does. She is constantly following her around the house watching what Sophie does and then immediately repeats it. She has learned how to use sign language from watching Sophie. She says at least 20 words**. She throws full out temper tantrums (throwing body onto the floor, arching back, collapses into a wet noodle if you try to pick her up). She has practiced the art of defense to perfection (she knows when Sophie comes running to either duck into a squatting position with her head down or to lay flat on the ground and play dead). She loves to run around the house pretending to talk on the phone. Her new favorite phrase is "dab ba dab ba dab" which is something Sophie use to always say. She loves to load up as many dolls into her baby stroller and push them around the house. She also loves to feed them a bottle and put them night-night in which she lays them down and pats them on the back. She loves to go to the grocery store with me and charms the pants off of everyone. She is so tiny (at her one year checkup...she was 18 pounds 4 ounces and 29 inches long) that she looks so adorable walking up and down the aisles holding some sort of food item in each arm. She has incredible balance. She has great fine motor skills (stacking rings, nesting cups). She screams her head off whenever you change her diaper or try to put clothes on her. I mean "top of her lungs" screaming and twisting her body. But she doesn't say a peep when you are taking them off or if she is highly distracted by watching Barney. And when she is wearing clothes, she tugs at them and says "off". I am in trouble once she figures out how to take her clothes off. She loves turning the pages in her book. She understands almost everything I say to her and follows 2 step commands. If I tell her to go get a book so I can read it to her...she will walk to her book box in the other room, pick out a book and bring it to me. She does the hand motions to several songs (itsy bitsy spider, pat-a-cake). She identifies objects in the book. I can go on forever. Most of this is for me. For my records. Before I forget.




**She says dada, mama, done, down, uh (up), bar (Barney), baba (bottle), wawa (water), dog, nack (snack), moh (more), hi, bye, no, Elmo, doh (door), nigh-nigh (night-night), off, book, duck, nose, ball, num-num (something yummy to eat). She signs elephant, fish, pig, daddy, done, more, eat, blows kisses, waves hi and bye.

Friday, February 20, 2009

It is NOT just a petition...

You may have not connected with Gwendolyn and her family but they have deeply touched my heart with their story. The posting below is about more than just a petition. It is about the love a mother has for her child. The need to feel like she is doing everything possible to help her daughter and others fighting this disease and stopping anyone to ever have to live the same battle. Please take a moment...literally only moments....to, foremost, sign the petition but to also spread the word. To repost on your blog, to forward in an e-mail, anything to help. Because, for most people in the world, you cannot even imagine what it must feel like to hold your baby in your arms and be told there is nothing you can do to save your child's life.

Reposted from Gwendolyn Strong's blog page...


Just A Petition

I think, perhaps, I am obsessed. No, I know I am. Each day I check the petition, multiple times a day actually. I read the comments people write and the places they are from. I look for patterns to see what outreach efforts have worked. I think about how to reach more people, how to gain more support, what to try next...every single day.

Perhaps it seems futile, perhaps pathetic. But to be told, "There is nothing you can do. Go home and love your baby" -- well, that is impossible. We have no course of action, no next step, no treatment to put all of our efforts and energy into. The petition is our rounds one, two, and three. In a sense, the petition has become a 'treatment' because seeing it grow gives me hope, encouragement, and renewed vigor to keep pushing and fighting for our daughter, for others fighting with SMA, and for all of those taken much too early by this horrible disease. I know that to most people it is just a petition, a piece of paper. But not to me. It is all I have. It is my hope. My way of fighting this cruel disease. My way of doing something... anything... instead of just sitting there and waiting. I'm on the lookout for miracles, but none seem headed in our direction, so this is all I've got.

And so, when you pass out fliers... when you post on your blog... when you tell a friend... You are helping. When you offer to lend a hand and mean it... when you take action and really do instead of just talking about doing... You are helping. More than you know. You are helping one mother feel as if I am not alone, as if I have not given up. And I thank you for that, for giving me a little bit of hope...I need it to be a better mother to Gwendolyn.

http://www.petitiontocuresma.com/


Wednesday, February 18, 2009

Yummies...

I left a bowl of chicken and rice soup on the kitchen table that I was feeding Elsa. A few minutes later, I found Sophie sitting in the chair using a spoon to eat the soup all by herself!!! She is so not into using utensils. She was actually able to scoop up some soup** and make it into her mouth without spilling it everywhere!!! All this without being prompted. I am so proud of her.


**The soup was pretty thick because I added a lot of rice to help with Elsa's stomach issue. She has a stomach virus so I have been incorporating the BRAT diet.

Tuesday, February 17, 2009

Testing update...

So I talked with Ruth (Dr. Chugani's nurse that knows everything and anything about the surgery process) last Friday. The only test worth repeating right now is the 24 hour video monitoring EEG. Until the EEG shows a focus, none of the other test matter. Even though all the other tests show only left sided abnormalities, there is no way of knowing if that is truly where the seizures are originating until the EEG shows it. As all the other tests are just not enough evidence to go forward with surgery. So after Ruth discussed it with Dr. Chugani, they are okay with us having the EEG done locally so we do not have to travel out of town. I spoke with Sophie's local neurologist last night and he is going to set everything up. He also brought up trying Banzel (thank you Jen for mentioning that to me in one of your comments or else I would have been clueless). So we are now leaning towards starting Sophie on it. It is just a matter of whether we should start her on it now or after the EEG.


It's a BOY!!!

I am having a BOY!!! Brandon is ecstatic and Haley got her wish. According to Haley, everything would be okay as long as it was a boy. It would even things out. She would then have 2 sisters and 2 brothers (she has a brother on her mom side).

For me...it feels a little weird. To have to venture over to the boy section of clothing. The thought of diaper changes. The color blue. I went way overboard on pink. Everything is pink. Sippy cups, diaper bags, burp cloths, bibs...you name it and it is girly. I never thought I would have a boy.

Oh, and most importantly, everything looked great on the ultrasound.

Saturday, February 14, 2009

Happy Valentine's Day...

Sophie had a Friendship Day party at her preschool on Thursday. It was so adorable. She was full of giggles as she couldn't figure out why Elsa was there. Elsa sat at the table waiting for her treat just like the rest of the big kids. Sophie kept looking over at her and laughing. It was so sweet.

Wednesday, February 11, 2009

Perspective...

I feel selfish...after reading this post on Zoey's blog and this post on Gwendolyn's blog. I was basing my decision on whether to do another round of testing for Sophie based upon my memories. These eyes that have forever been etched into my heart...


But these are not Sophie's memories. She most likely doesn't remember any of this.

Our kids are so strong and resilient. They are fighters. They don't dwell on the past. They look forward and do their best.

So, with all that said, we are going back to see Dr. Chugani to do another round of testing. I can't give up. I have to keep fighting on behalf of Sophie.

And if you haven't yet, please sign this petition.

Monday, February 09, 2009

What to do....

It's that time again. Time to think about whether we want to make another trip to repeat another round of testing with Dr. Chugani in Detroit. I hate thinking about it. But I have to. Especially since I haven't been thinking about things at all lately. I took a little hiatus from thinking. From our reality. Only problem is...Sophie's seizures haven't. They did once. For a month. But that was over a year ago.

So I e-mailed Dr. Chugani at 10:44am this morning...

...and he responded at 11:58am today.

Wow! Talk about a quick response.

He believes we should come up to repeat testing. The only problem is...I don't know if I really want to put Sophie through all that again. I have to believe that there is a chance that things have changed and she might be a surgical candidate. But I don't know if I believe that. Not even a tiny bit. But what else do I do? I am out of ideas. Sophie's local neuro is out of ideas. Dr. Chugani is out of ideas (as to trying another treatment option besides surgery). She still remains med free except for the neurontin at night. Her seizures still remain around 40 a day. Her development seems to have slowed.

I am so torn.

Thursday, February 05, 2009

California or bust...

This post is long overdue. We went to San Diego at the end of November to visit my sister and her family. Though, I couldn't resist posting these adorable pictures of the kids. Oh, how we miss San Diego so very much!!!!! We had an absolutely wonderful time.

Sophie had fun playing in the sand. Elsa rode her first roller coaster and loved it. We all got to spend a lot time outside. Sophie was suppose to go back to school the day after we got home but it was cancelled due to bad weather...it took quite a few weeks for me to convince Sophie she couldn't just walk outside to beautiful weather.

Sophie and Elsa both loved the stroller walks up to Colin and Nicholas' school. Though, Colin and Nicholas got a little tired of having to walk home (it's right about a mile from their house) so we came up with some interesting ways to fit all 4 kids in 2 strollers.

We went to Sea World, Lego Land and made quite a few trips to the beach. The sand was great for Sophie's sensory issues. Though you wouldn't think she had any once you look at the picture below. But on our last vacation to the beach she cried as soon as her feet touched the sand. I guess she has somehow worked that one out in the endless hours of therapy she has had since then. She still has issues with snow but it is starting to get better.

Unfortunately, Haley wasn't able to go with us. We went for 18 days and just could not take her out of school that long.


Sophie and Elsa on the playground at the beach.


Cute picture of Elsa in her favorite stroller.


Aunt Erin and Elsa on the teacup ride at Sea World.
She practically leaped out of Erin's arms trying to get on the ride when she saw the other kids getting on.
So even though Erin was starting to get a little nauseous from the other spinning rides, she couldn't let her down.



Colin and Nicholas at the beach.



Sophie having a blast playing in the sand.


Daddy and Sophie playing in the water. It was too cold to go swimming.
But if it was up to Sophie, she would have dove straight in.



Aunt Erin and Elsa on the beach. She loved the water almost as much as Sophie.


Elsa playing in the giant rocks.


Sophie, Daddy, Elsa and Me at the beach.


Uncle Joe, Elsa, Sophie and Daddy at the beach.

Friday, January 23, 2009

Neurontin update...

Neurontin has been a roller coaster for us. Sophie slept through the night the first 4 nights in a row. Then she woke up once the following 3 nights. But when she did wake up, it was only for a few minutes. She would just sit straight up in bed, sit there for a minute, and then fall right back to sleep. Ever since then, she will sleep through the night every other night. The nights that she does wake up, she has been up longer. Though, it is still better than before we started Neurontin.

We are only on the lowest dose (3ml right before bedtime). But with every drug there are side effects. Sophie's seizures seem to be worse during the day. They are harder and last longer. So I am very weary about increasing the dosage. Uggg...nothing can ever be simple. Always trade offs. A lot to weigh on my mind. At least, she is not waking up in the middle of the night with her screaming seizures. I shouldn't say "at least". That is huge. So HUGE!!! That broke my heart more than anything. So, I guess I just rationalized it. The trade off is in our favor this time. Now I will just need to rationalize whether it might be worth it to increase Neurontin. For now, we will just give it some time. Maybe add another AED (anti-epileptic drug) during the day to see if it helps her daytime seizures. Maybe Lamictal. Who knows.

Tuesday, January 13, 2009

Sad transition...

Since Sophie turned 3 years old in October, she had to transition out of the Missouri First Steps program and into the Early Childhood Special Eduction program. So we had to say goodbye to all of her therapist. It was a very sad week. She had 5 therapist so we scheduled it to where we only had to say goodbye to one every day the week before she turned 3. We miss them dearly. These people were such an important part of our lives for so long. Sophie started receiving therapy when she was only 9 months old. I know Sophie would not be where she is at today if it wasn't for each and every one of them. There is no way I could ever thank these people enough. They will always hold a special place in my heart. It takes an amazing person to be a therapist to a special needs child. So here they are...

Karen, Physical Therapist


Jen, Behavioral Therapist


Staci, Developmental Therapist

Erin, Speech Therapist


Olivia, Occupational Therapist (not pictured)

Saturday, January 10, 2009

Sweet dreams...

We started Sophie on Neurontin two nights ago. Even though Neurontin is a seizure medication, we are using it for a sleeping aid. Melatonin did nothing for her...probably because her issue was never falling asleep but staying asleep. She has slept through the night on both nights. Though, she immediately threw up after taking last night's dose. We finally found a medication that Sophie cannot tolerate. It is liquid form and I guess it taste terrible even though it is suppose to have a strawberry flavor. I cannot bring myself to taste it but if Sophie thinks it is bad then it is HORRIBLE. Maybe if we mix it in with some yummy drink, she will tolerate it better. Time to start experimenting.